A lifelong & successful marriage doesn’t come easy peasy, but it’s not impossible to achieve. It takes work, respect, loyalty, love……& work 🙂
Do things TOGETHER……..A simple meal just the two of you once a week or once a month. A getaway for the weekend, a night, or even a few hours to give one another undivided attention. If you can’t do a getaway, stay home. Get a babysitter if you have kids or put them to bed early & lock yourselves in your bedroom. There’s endless ideas on how to get just “us” time. And it doesn’t always have to be about sex……unless you want it to be! Just be sure to work in alone time together on a regular basis. This can be harder said than done. We get caught up in work & kids, & before you know it, it’s been 2 months of not one single “us” time……other than going to bed to sleep. But this is so important. So as you would schedule anything in your calendar of importance to not forget…..schedule this!
Don’t let the sun go down on your anger…….Discuss your problems honestly, openly, respectfully, & out of love. You don’t want walls built in your marriage. So don’t ignore something that will brought to the table later…….you know it will be brought, so do it sooner than later. And yes, I mean this literally…..do not let the sun go down & you still be angry. If you can still get a great nights sleep, then apparently you aren’t that angry. If its keeping you awake……talk about it!
Tell them you love them……..The longer you are married, this can be overlooked. I don’t mean tell them you love them when they are leaving or before bed. I mean tell them on purpose without a specific reason. And show them in the same way. It doesn’t have to be an expensive gift. It can simply be by holding their hand, even if you’re just sitting watching tv. A hug as you walk by each other, busy doing what you do. Sometimes the most simplest things are what keeps our heart fluttering about the one we love.
Intimacy/Romance……..Whatever works for you as a couple, do that! Intimacy gives reassurance that you both are still wanted & not only wanted, but desired.
Be united…….In whatever life throws at you, be united! Kids, finances, family…….stay united, stay as one! You will always be stronger & come out in the end better.
It can be that simple. If there’s mutual respect, loyalty, & love……it’s that simple! I’d love to hear others advice & comments. What keeps your marriage shining bright?
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